Different views January 26, 2012
Posted by babysis in Baby.trackback
M and I have different opinions when it comes to x missing school for a day or two. He insists on not having her miss a single day while I’m always ready to let her stay home if she wants to or when I’m home.
Am still on leave so wanted to let her stay home today but he got up early, made the kid get up who in turn woke everyone in the family. Now they are on their way to school.
I don’t see why she has to go when I’m home. She is only in nursery 2 so no big academic loss being absent! He feels that she will be happier in school with all the activities.
X was a little grouchy when she got up but she also accepted the fact that she needed to step out of the house. We are both feeling resigned. Does it really matter for a n2 to skip 2 days of school?!
I’m with M on this one. Not so much a matter of academics, but more an issue of habit. I don’t want the kids to get the idea it’s okay to skip school as and when they like. If we say it’s okay, they’ll think it’s okay, and they’ll use it against us the first chance they get. True X doesn’t learn much at school at this point, but if she thinks it’s okay to skip school whenever, you’ll find yourself with bigger problems further down the road. That said, I have taken my kids out of school on occasion. But I make it a point to highlight that there’s a special reason for not going to school and that it won’t happen all the time.
I think you can take her out of school, but make it very clear it’s one-off and that she cannot expect to be taken out of school every single time you’re on leave. You will have to take time off here and there for K over the next couple of years – you don’t want her to assume that just because you’re off means she’s off too.
She is still too young to make assumptions I feel. Anyway it’s the lazy mom I suppose… When growing up I’m wishing every day that I didn’t have to go school. So now if there is a chance I’ll let her stay home too. It wouldn’t be so easy when she goes p1 onwards.
I agree with M on this too, it is better to get her into the habit of going to school and not being able to find an excuse in the future for not going to school. Anyway, you should look at it in a different light – take it as an opportunity for you to rest and spend time on Kai or yourself at home. X had a lot of alone-time with you so give some of that to K too. If K doesn’t do much at this point, then you should have some me-time!
Yap in the end I got some peace and quiet. Left kai with maid. Tomorrow doing a 40 km ride with m so will let her go school again.
Might I add that it will also get u into a habit of getting her to school regularly when it becomes more critical in primary onwards
I’m a little upset that we can’t go on holiday during non-sch-holidays period anymore, where it’s cheaper and probably less crowded everywhere, but I suppose its something all parents will need to deal with.
Hols I prob will still do non school period till she starts p1! It’s a pain going on trip and squeezing with all the parents and kids!